It’s been about 3 months since I last blogged. Wow. I’ve managed to even surprise myself with how little I care about updating this thing.
I’ve been back in Jersey since the 11th. Dad took a turn for the worse and required in-home hospice, which lasted all of 4 days before he needed to be moved to the hospital. All-in-all it took a week from diagnosis that the end was near to the end. Fortunately for us all he didn’t hang on longer than he needed to with little quality of life. He’d been fighting cancer on multiple sites of his body for 3+ years, which coincided almost perfectly with my move to Seattle. Much of my relationship with Dad these past years has been over the phone. Thankfully his treatments managed to slow the growth of his rather aggressive cancers enough so he could spend some quality time with my daughter. I think it will really hit me in a couple weeks after I’ve called in several times with only my mom answering. Skype will also be less awkward now with my mother center of the screen instead of the two of them at opposite ends with a nice view of their wall between them.
My Dad was the jokester; the man who was the life of the party. He taught me how to be funny and how to be receptive to humor. He and I didn’t always agree on certain things – especially with regard to how the world was changing, but I think that’s a normal generational thing and I looked forward to our banter. Dad also gave me my names, all of them, except for my confirmation name. As a control-freak-INTJ-only-child it fascinates me when I think about all the decisions other people made that led to my existence. Dad managed to convince my mom that he had money – that he was the most worthy eligible bachelor in Elizabeth, NJ at the time. Impressive Dad. Most impressive. And thanks for doing that.
Time to get back on the horse and blog more.